This week, 52 Lives would like to help a 56 year old man called Alan, from Dunstable. Alan was nominated by his wife of 15 years, Alyson.
Not long after they were married, Alyson became unwell. She had months of doctor’s appointments, tests and MRIs. The results were inconclusive but pointed to MS. Alyson kept the results to herself, and carried on working two jobs for a few more months. She started to have seizures, meaning she could no longer drive and eventually she had to give up working altogether.
Alyson was then diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Chronic Inflammatory Demyelinating Poly neuropathy, and also has been suffering with depression and other mental health issues.
She began to deteriorate, and life became much tougher for her. After one particularly bad seizure, Alan came home to find Alyson laying hurt on the floor. It was that moment he realised he couldn’t let this continue. They tried to hire a carer, but it was a struggle financially. They had more going out than coming in and the small amount of savings they had soon dwindled. So Alan made the decision to give up work to care for Alyson fulltime.
So, since that time Alan has cared for Alyson all day, every day. He gets her out of bed in the morning showered and dressed, cooks for her, cleans….he devotes himself entirely to anything and everything she needs.
When Alyson contacted 52 Lives, she wrote that it is often people who are disabled or ill who are offered help. But that behind every single one is a carer who gives love, care, time and help without expecting any thanks.
Alyson and Alan have been through so much. The situation they’re in would put a strain on any relationship, but the love and respect they have for each other is just beautiful - and very obvious from every single thing she says about Alan.
“I don’t know what my son and I would have done without Alan. Things are tough financially, so there are not a lot of treats but we spend time together and we laugh a lot (usually at me when I have said or done something silly). Alan really is one in a million and the love I have for him is immeasurable.”
We think Alan is amazing and we would love to shower him with some kindness!